Weddings are not just expensive to throw, but go to. According to a survey by American Express, this year’s cost of showing up for a wedding will cost a guest about $539 and a member of the wedding party $577, each is 75% more than in 2012. The major buck busters are jewelry, clothes, and babysitting or pet sitting. And then there’s the wedding gift. The average cost for a gift is $97 for a friend and $144 for a family member. What I like to do to a couple is go to their house like a year later and ask them to see what you bought them. Then watch as the look of sheer terror comes over both their faces!